Sunday, July 18, 2010

Being Who You Want to Be

Lately I feel like I'm a little bitter, not as positive and happy as I want to be.  I strive to be understanding and forgiving but there are times that this is difficult.  Sometimes, I realize that I have been giving way more than other people and I'm left with a feeling of being used.  The other night I was telling my Hubbins that sometimes I feel like I have a split personality.  On one hand I'm nice and understanding but on the other I'm blunt and tactless.

So, last night I was floating around on the internet and I came across this story that made me feel less crazy.

An Old Cherokee Teaches His Grandson About Life.

 "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. 
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.  This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather which wolf would win.

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

I think we all struggle at times with being true with who we want to be.  It's so easy to fall into a negative cycle of thinking and behaving.  Positivity sometimes takes a little extra work but it leaves me feeling happier and more at peace.

What do you think?  Do you sometimes have to work hard at being who you want to be?


  1. Wow this post feels like you stole the words right out of my mouth!!! It is so easy to fall into negativity and I feel like its been getting the best of me lately! I only have a little more than 4 weeks left til baby #2, my husband has been traveling out the wazoo for work, our house is for sale and we are in the process of finding a new one in a whole new city 2 hours away, plus chasing my 15 month old! I know I have a lot going on but sometimes I just need to CHILL and be THANKFUL instead of letting it get to me! I need to just relax and let the kitchen stay a mess for more than a few hours lol! I have a lot of work at being who I want to be but at least recognizing that I know I have that problem will hopefully help! Thanks so much for the post, sorry I had a mini vent on your comments!! By the way I am really loving the poem.. it is so true, let's both work on feeding the peaceful soul vs the angry bitter cranky mommy soul that gets the best of me!!

    Hope you have a great week, thanks again for the post!

  2. Oh, yes, I have to work very hard not to be bitter! That story is a wonderful story to remember...I need to copy it somewhere!

  3. Excellent post Kasey! I had read that story way back and yes it does suit what you may be feeling right now. I think we all struggle with this at times, because we want so much to b e true to ourselves and at the same time there is so much going on. It is hard to give all the time and not always get back in return. My thing lately is how people don't even say thank you any more. I don't get it! Or calling and not getting a call back. It is rude and everyone is busy. I am busy too and take the time to call about something, so have common courtesy and return the call. This is one example of many that make me think about things. This was s great post! Have a great day!

    Mama Hen

  4. Oh definitely Kasey, I work on being who I want to be. Sometimes I work too hard, and have to step back and let myself rest. Let myself make mistakes and fail, then try again. Thanks for sharing honestly, that's always refreshing and takes courage! Excellent story, illustrates so well the split we all feel sometimes. I believe as we work to be who we want to be, we practice more of the habits that get us there. We remember to feed the good wolf more :)

  5. I have been thinking about that too. This morning I was listening to Dani Johnson motivation tape and she reminded me that everything is God's and we need to be grateful for everything he gave us.

  6. Great post Kasey! The struggle of being who we want to be is something I think about alot. Your native american story is a great illustration of that struggle.



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